{"id":2145,"date":"2020-06-05T06:06:13","date_gmt":"2020-06-05T06:06:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/?p=2145"},"modified":"2020-06-25T05:02:52","modified_gmt":"2020-06-25T05:02:52","slug":"isyour-husband-or-wife-driving-you-crazy-during-coronavirus-learn-the-secrets-ofhappy-love-from-oprah-favorites-dr-harville-hendrix-dr-helen-huntamericas-top-marriage-psychologists","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/isyour-husband-or-wife-driving-you-crazy-during-coronavirus-learn-the-secrets-ofhappy-love-from-oprah-favorites-dr-harville-hendrix-dr-helen-huntamericas-top-marriage-psychologists\/","title":{"rendered":"Is your husband or wife driving you crazy during coronavirus? Learn the secrets of happy love from oprah favorites, Dr. Harville Hendrix &#038; Dr. Helen Hunt, America\u2019s top marriage psychologists"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border: none;\" title=\"IS YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE DRIVING YOU CRAZY DURING CORONAVIRUS? LEARN THE SECRETS OF HAPPY LOVE FROM OPRAH FAVORITES, DR. HARVILLE HENDRIX &amp; DR. HELEN HUNT, AMERICA\u2019S TOP MARRIAGE PSYCHOLOGISTS\" src=\"https:\/\/www.podbean.com\/media\/player\/dc8kh-de91e4?from=usersite&amp;skin=1&amp;share=1&amp;fonts=Helvetica&amp;auto=0&amp;download=1&amp;version=1\" width=\"100%\" height=\"122\" scrolling=\"no\" data-name=\"pb-iframe-player\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Is your husband or wife driving you crazy during these difficult stay-at-home times? Now, there\u2019s a way to create a happy love partnership with the breakthrough Imago technology of Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt, NY Times bestselling authors of the classic, \u201cGetting the Love You Want.\u201d\u00a0 We were fortunate to have this amazing married couple (together 40 years) on Love University as they educated us on how to heal childhood wounds and create a love that lasts a lifetime. Let\u2019s take a look at their wisdom for happy long-term relationships, even in times of stress and turmoil:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><b>*Make an appointment with your partner<\/b>:\u00a0 Instead of reacting emotionally to something your partner said or did (\u201cYou\u2019re a jerk\u201d), slow down your (and your partner\u2019s) emotional reflexes by asking, \u201cIs this a good time to talk?\u201d\u00a0 By doing so, both of you can get into your rational brain (cerebral cortex) instead of reacting from the emotional part (amygdala) that is reactive and defensive. \u00a0This makes for safer and nonjudgmental communication that can help both of you feel better about each other and the relationship.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><b>*Be each other\u2019s therapists<\/b>:\u00a0 Through Imago training with a competent practitioner, you can learn how to heal your and your partner\u2019s childhood wounds. According to Imago, we tend to pick a love partner who has the positive and negative qualities of the parent we had the most difficulties with.\u00a0 Therefore, you might pick a cold man just like your distant father, or an overprotective woman like your emotionally unhealthy mother.\u00a0 The first step to develop a healthy relationship is for the partners to help each other discover their inner childhood wounds. Then, they can help each other heal through communication and hands-on exercises designed to process their feelings and get their needs met in a safe and nonjudgmental environment.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><b>*Express Empathy and Compassion toward your partner<\/b>.\u00a0 In a set of structured communication Imago exercises, you can express empathy and compassion toward your mate by mirroring your partner (\u201cI think what you\u2019re saying is\u2026Is there more?\u201d), \u00a0validating (\u201cMakes sense\u201d) and empathy (\u201cYou must be feeling\u2026). In this way, the couple moves from competition to cooperation; from conflict to compassion. They can see each other\u2019s points of view in a real way and have open and honest communication without the fear of being judged or criticized. Now they can have safe conversations that protect and enhance the relationship.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><b>*Have a Negativity Free Agreement<\/b>. One of the main things that saved Harville and Helen from divorce (yes, they were on the verge) was maintaining a \u201cNo Negativity Agreement.\u201d\u00a0 For a certain period of time\u2014hours, days, or more\u2014you and your partner agree not to speak negatively or critically to each other. Most unhappy couples tend to say several negative things to each other for every positive statement they make (the reverse is true for happy couples). \u00a0Some couples have nothing positive to say about each other at all.\u00a0 Yet, to have a happy marriage or long-term relationship, it\u2019s important that you accentuate the positive\u2014have fun, appreciation, and caring days; give each other unexpected surprises, and eliminate negative criticisms and complaints from your everyday conversation with your partner. When you want to work on something in the relationship, use the structured dialogue exercises mentioned above to communicate in a safe and nonjudgmental way in which hurts and pains are minimized and love is enhanced.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><b>*Bring the Higher Nature into your relationship.<\/b>\u00a0 Regardless of their religious or spiritual beliefs, most people recognize that there is something sacred and holy in the deepest and most fulfilling love relationships and marriages. Recognized by various terms, Imago Dei (image of God), agape (unconditional love), or light creation (leaving a legacy of goodness), the best relationships have this special and beautiful quality. When you allow the Higher Nature (God spirit, nature) into your relationship, it\u2019s no longer just about two people as individuals; it\u2019s about the sacred space between them\u2014the all-encompassing representation of sacrificial love in which each person is willing to give their life for the welfare of their partner.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">In these times of trouble and upheaval, there is a silver lining. \u00a0We are moving toward an Omega point (spiritual unification) in which the whole world is coming together to fight common enemies (disease, hate, and inequality). In the same way, couples who have been fighting each other can find the unity and similarity within their uniqueness and create a love that is more than just romance and fairy tales. It is a love that stands the test of all time and leaves a legacy of light and goodness through the children created, the friends made, the experiences shared, and the contributions made.\u00a0 In the end, there is only one thing left when couples separate through circumstance or death: It is called Love.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">CLICK HERE FOR MORE ON <a href=\"https:\/\/loveuniversity.podbean.com\/e\/is-your-husbandor-wife-driving-youcrazy-during-coronavirustimes-learnthe-secrtsof-ahappy-love-partnership-from-dr-harville-hendrixdrhelen-hunt-america\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/loveuniversity.podbean.com\/e\/is-your-husbandor-wife-driving-youcrazy-during-coronavirustimes-learnthe-secrtsof-ahappy-love-partnership-from-dr-harville-hendrixdrhelen-hunt-america\/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1591420137543000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3z26rsXAnKzCD8ClGlCXhA\">IS YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE DRIVING YOU CRAZY DURING CORONAVIRUS? LEARN THE SECRETS OF HAPPY LOVE FROM OPRAH FAVORITES, DR. HARVILLE HENDRIX &amp; DR. HELEN HUNT, AMERICA\u2019S TOP MARRIAGE PSYCHOLOGISTS<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Is your husband or wife driving you crazy during these difficult stay-at-home times? 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