{"id":2353,"date":"2020-08-25T06:08:46","date_gmt":"2020-08-25T06:08:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/?p=2353"},"modified":"2020-08-31T05:10:50","modified_gmt":"2020-08-31T05:10:50","slug":"would-you-marry-your-soul-mate-if-they-were-about-to-die-special-guest-ashley-jackson-creator-of-timeless-dream-events-for-terminally-ill-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/would-you-marry-your-soul-mate-if-they-were-about-to-die-special-guest-ashley-jackson-creator-of-timeless-dream-events-for-terminally-ill-people\/","title":{"rendered":"Would You Marry Your Soul Mate If They Were About to Die?  Special Guest Ashley Jackson, Creator of Timeless Dream Events for Terminally Ill People"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border: none;\" title=\"WOULD YOUR MARRY YOUR SOUL MATE IF THEY WERE ABOUT TO DIE? SPECIAL GUEST ASHLEYJACKSON, CREATOR OF TIMELESS DREAM EVENTS FOR TERMINALLY ILL PEOPLE\" src=\"https:\/\/www.podbean.com\/media\/player\/ah5ht-e7f7cc?from=usersite&amp;skin=1&amp;share=1&amp;fonts=Helvetica&amp;auto=0&amp;download=1&amp;version=1\" width=\"100%\" height=\"122\" scrolling=\"no\" data-name=\"pb-iframe-player\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">By Alex Avila<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">Imagine if your soul mate had terminal cancer and were about to die soon\u2014would you marry them? That is exactly what our amazing guest on Love University, Ashley Jackson, did when her fianc\u00e9, Troy, was diagnosed with stage 4 nasal cancer\u2014two months after he proposed to her.\u00a0 Not only did they marry, but they are still happily married three years later and Troy has made a full recovery. Here are some of the nuggets of wisdom we learned from Ashley on how to survive and thrive when hearing about a loved one\u2019s terminal diagnosis:<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*Match and lead.<\/strong>\u00a0 When a loved one is diagnosed with a terminal illness, shock, anger, and despair often follow. The loved one may feel like they have a \u201cdeath sentence\u201d and that their life has ended. Regardless of how they feel, it\u2019s important that you initially match their feelings.\u00a0 If they are sad, you can have empathy for their sadness, and you will speak slower and in a more somber tone to mirror their depleted energy. When they are more optimistic, you can match their optimism and speak in a brighter and cheerier tone. Being sensitive to your loved one\u2019s feeling is part of being empathetic\u2014putting yourself in their shoes. If you try to cheer them up too soon, they may not react well to it because they are mired in a lower emotional state (sadness).\u00a0 The key is to mirror their emotions (match how they are feeling)\u2014whether sad, hopeful, fearful, or peaceful. Then, once you have met them at their emotional level, you can slightly elevate your response. You can offer them your own positive emotions, including optimism and faith, to raise their emotional state. Remember, however, that you will only upgrade your emotional reaction\u2014smile, laugh, joke, be positive\u2014when your loved one is ready to receive it.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*Jump out of the box and live fearlessly.<\/strong>\u00a0When we hear about a loved one\u2019s cancer diagnosis, or other catastrophic news, the tendency is to give in to fear, worry, and anxiety. Yet, Ashley counsels us to jump out of the small box that fear tries to put us in. You need to realize that life is meant to be lived with love, faith, and courage, and that you can express those sentiments, despite the fear that tries to grip you.\u00a0 Make a list of all the things you want to do with your loved one, including traveling, learning a new skill or hobby, starting a business project or venture, helping others, or trying a new experience. As long as your loved one is physically able to do so, give it a try. Maybe you can throw them a special \u201clife\u201d party, celebrating their life and love.\u00a0 Or, you can take them on a fun treasure hunt on the beach or participate in fun outings and get- togethers with loving family and supportive friends.\u00a0 The important thing is to bring loving energy and fun into your activities together as you recognize that love is the perfect antidote to fear; and joy is the ideal cure for despair.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*Don\u2019t be Happy, Be Joyful.<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Ashley tells us about a fascinating reversal: Don\u2019t seek to be happy with your loved one\u2014focus on being \u201cin joy\u201d with them. When you\u2019re happy, you need something to \u201chappen\u201d for you to maintain that feeling. Your loved one needs to do or say something that you want them to do or say; this is a form of conditional love that depends on their words and actions matching exactly what you want of them. On the other hand, when you are in joy with your loved one\u2014whether it\u2019s a love partner, child, family member, animal, or close friend\u2014you simply love being with them; you have joy when you\u2019re together.\u00a0 When this happens, you are in the moment in your joyfulness and love\u2014and simply say, \u201cWow.\u201d With this type of loving energy without expectation, there is never a thought that you will leave that person (or animal)\u2014or that they will leave you\u2014your loving energy is what will always keep the two of you together, even in the plane beyond this life.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">In the end, Ashley concludes, love is what helps you pull through whatever ails you in life.\u00a0 She says that her husband, Troy, always tells her that it was her love that made all the difference in his recovery. He says: \u201cI wouldn\u2019t be here today if it weren\u2019t for you.\u201d\u00a0 Take the example of Ashley and Troy to heart and remember to say \u201cI love you\u201d to your loved ones every time you leave them. In this way, you won\u2019t have the regret that you didn\u2019t say it often enough while they were here on this earth. Keep the love alive in your heart every day, and you will never lose the most important things:\u00a0 the memories of your loved one, the joy you shared, and the positive difference you made in the world by the example of your love.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">CLICK HERE\u00a0 FOR MORE ON <a href=\"https:\/\/loveuniversity.podbean.com\/e\/would-your-marry-your-soul-mate-if-they-were-about-to-die-special-guest-ashleyjackson-creator-of-timeless-dream-events-for-terminally-ill-people\/\"><strong>Would You Marry Your Soul Mate If They Were About to Die?\u00a0 Special Guest Ashley Jackson, Creator of Timeless Dream Events for Terminally Ill People\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Alex Avila Imagine if your soul mate had terminal cancer and were about to die soon\u2014would you marry them? 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