{"id":2419,"date":"2020-11-26T10:30:16","date_gmt":"2020-11-26T10:30:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/?p=2419"},"modified":"2020-11-30T10:12:56","modified_gmt":"2020-11-30T10:12:56","slug":"how-shy-and-introvert-people-canrule-the-world-the-new-paradigm-for-social-interaction-connection-andhappiness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/how-shy-and-introvert-people-canrule-the-world-the-new-paradigm-for-social-interaction-connection-andhappiness\/","title":{"rendered":"How Shy and Introvert People Can Rule The World: The New Paradigm For Social Interaction, Connection, and Happiness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"HOW SHY AND INTROVERT PEOPLE CAN RULE THE WORLD: THE NEW PARADIGM FOR SOCIAL INTERACTION, CONNECTION, AND HAPPINESS\" src=\"https:\/\/www.podbean.com\/media\/player\/nrumk-f2f8bc?from=usersite&#038;skin=1&#038;share=1&#038;fonts=Helvetica&#038;auto=0&#038;download=1&#038;version=1\" height=\"122\" width=\"100%\" style=\"border: none;\" scrolling=\"no\" data-name=\"pb-iframe-player\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">Are you Introvert or shy?\u00a0 Is so, this is becoming your world. Currently, 50% of the population is classified as Introvert (seeking energy within) while 50% are classified as shy (strongly sensitive to the social environment). As technology grows, and people do more things from home, we\u2019re becoming a more internal species\u2014spending a great portion of our time on our technological devices and in our own thoughts.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">Introversion and shyness are somewhat different. Introverts\u00a0have a limited amount of social energy to spend, yet they\u00a0can be sociable in smaller doses.\u00a0In fact, they can be very good leaders because they often take the time to listen to people carefully and encourage them to keep improving.\u00a0\u00a0A shy person, on the other hand, is an individual who is very sensitive to the environment, and who may have a self-conscious side\u2014worrying\u00a0that they will be rejected and criticized by others. Although being shy can have its challenges, in my book,\u00a0<em>The Gift of Shyness\u00a0<\/em>(<a href=\"https:\/\/rb.gy\/l7zjmm\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/rb.gy\/l7zjmm&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1606472262165000&amp;usg=AFQjCNE7kIoo3OnUIPCe87OZpwnuM4KVMA\">rb.gy\/l7zjmm<\/a>),\u00a0I talk about the positive traits of the shy person. Shy people are often sensitive, good listeners, reflective, and loyal, among other positive traits.\u00a0\u00a0The key for the shy person\u2019s success and happiness is for them to reduce the self-conscious (self-critical) part of their mind while increasing their spontaneous and natural side.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">Here are some tips for you to claim your shyness or Introversion as a superpower that you can utilize for your good and the good of others:<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>If you\u2019re shy:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*Become the Actor.\u00a0<\/strong>The Actor is the part of your mind that is spontaneous, natural, and confident. Think of your favorite actor\u2014how they act, walk, talk, and dress. Imagine that you are that actor. At home, practice, talking, acting, and walking like them\u2014feeling their confidence and charisma. When you go out socially, imagine that your Actor is alive within you. You are ready to meet any social challenge because you have the Actor inside you as your best companion.\u00a0\u00a0In Israeli culture, children are encouraged to have Chutzpah, audacity or social courage\u2014to go for what they want, to speak their mind\u2014without the fear of failure or rejection. Chutzpah is a good skill for shy people to develop\u2014to know that there is nothing to fear when they take a social risk. To develop Chutzpah, keep expressing your actor, the powerful and spontaneous part of you, regardless of how others may react.\u00a0 When you do this, you will eventually find people who resonate with your style and will want to be connected to you in a quality relationship.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*Start with small human exchanges.\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0If you\u2019re shy, you may feel awkward breaking the ice and starting conversations.\u00a0To become more socially fluent, begin small in your conversational exchanges with others.\u00a0 Start by looking people in the eye, smiling, and saying \u201cHi,\u201d even if you don\u2019t know them. Progress to making a few observational comments; for example, to a passerby, you can say, \u201cIt sure is windy (or sunny) today.\u201d Or, you can try paying a sincere compliment, \u201cThat color looks good on you,\u201d when you see someone who looks friendly. Think of each conversational exchange as a social experiment in which you gain more knowledge about human interaction as you grow your\u00a0conversational muscles.\u00a0Talk to someone\u00a0every day\u00a0and you will get better at it.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*If you\u2019re an Introvert:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*Embrace your internalness.\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0Even before the virus, you may have been the type of person who did things alone\u2014and enjoyed it.\u00a0 Whether it was going out to eat, walking around, or even watching a movie, you enjoyed your alone time\u2014to think, observe, and reflect.\u00a0At the same time, as an Introvert,\u00a0you can enjoy the special company of a few long-term, loyal friends. The important thing is for you to embrace your Introvert nature, and don\u2019t wish that you were more Extraverted like a lot of society appears to be (remember they will soon be in the minority). Accept and love yourself as you are\u2014a proud Introvert\u2014and realize that you may not need a lot of people around you, but you can do just fine with a few close friendships. Enjoy your internal nature\u2014that is who you are.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*Manage your energy.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong>As an Introvert, you have a limited amount of social energy.\u00a0You\u00a0can even be the life of the party for a certain amount of time:\u00a0talkative, outgoing, and very social as long as your social energy lasts. \u00a0At a certain point, however, you will have used up your social gas tank, and you need to get away from the\u00a0environment\u00a0to recharge your batteries by yourself (hot tub, anyone?).\u00a0 Therefore, as an Introvert, your best approach is to measure your social energy carefully. You will only say \u201cYes,\u201d to the social engagements and activities that mean the most to you, while saying &#8220;No&#8221; to less impactful or meaningful social obligations. As you free\u00a0up more social energy, you will only participate in social activities and connections that fulfill you\u00a0and help you become your best self (maybe you join a writer\u2019s or reader\u2019s club).<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>For both Introvert and Shy people:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\"><strong>*Offer loving energy without expectation.\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0This is one of the greatest secrets of\u00a0social\u00a0success: Give loving energy to others without expectation. Help someone with their groceries or opening a door;\u00a0 assist an elderly person cross the street; listen attentively to people when they tell you their problems. Help friends connect with each other. Volunteer for a charitable or humanitarian organization that helps the disadvantaged. When you help people and give love without expecting anything in return, you unleash a tremendous positive power in the universe.\u00a0 Often, even though you weren\u2019t expecting anything in return, people will come out of nowhere to help you.\u00a0 Your life will become more pleasurable and exciting, and you will be happier and more content, when you extend your loving energy to the world because that is who you are\u00a0inside (love).<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">As more people are forced to stay home because of the virus, there is a silver lining: We\u2019re learning new ways to connect online: virtual activities, groups, and events; video chatting and video conferencing. At the same time, we\u2019re learning how to value our private, alone time\u2014how to think deeper, understand others and ourselves more thoroughly, and love more deeply. Now we can no longer take the ordinary good things in life for granted\u2014time spent with loved ones at fun outings; the ability to explore the world and see its beauty. Regardless of whether you\u2019re Introvert or Extravert, shy or nonshy, the key to happiness is to embrace your nature and love yourself. When you do that, you can love others and a Higher Nature (God, spirit) with all of your heart and soul. Yes, \u00a0the\u00a0world\u2014both inner and outer\u2014can be yours. Enjoy it.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\">Click here for more on: <a href=\"https:\/\/loveuniversity.podbean.com\/e\/how-shy-and-introvert-people-can-rule-the-world-the-new-paradigm-for-social-interaction-connection-and-happiness\/\">HOW SHY AND INTROVERT PEOPLE CAN RULE THE WORLD: THE NEW PARADIGM FOR SOCIAL INTERACTION, CONNECTION, AND HAPPINESS<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you Introvert or shy?\u00a0 Is so, this is becoming your world. 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