{"id":2945,"date":"2023-09-11T12:20:23","date_gmt":"2023-09-11T12:20:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/?p=2945"},"modified":"2023-09-11T12:20:23","modified_gmt":"2023-09-11T12:20:23","slug":"are-you-sleeping-with-a-narcissist-danger-signs-and-escape-strategies-with-special-guest-darlene-lancer-jd-lmft-expert-on-the-narcissist-mind","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/are-you-sleeping-with-a-narcissist-danger-signs-and-escape-strategies-with-special-guest-darlene-lancer-jd-lmft-expert-on-the-narcissist-mind\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Sleeping With a Narcissist? Danger Signs and Escape Strategies, with special guest Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, Expert on the Narcissist Mind"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe title=\"Are You Sleeping With a Narcissist? Danger Signs and Escape Strategies, with special guest Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, Expert on the Narcissist Mind\" allowtransparency=\"true\" height=\"150\" width=\"100%\" style=\"border: none; min-width: min(100%, 430px);height:150px;\" scrolling=\"no\" data-name=\"pb-iframe-player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.podbean.com\/player-v2\/?from=embed&#038;i=rk7ba-148ebad-pb&#038;share=1&#038;download=1&#038;fonts=Arial&#038;skin=1&#038;font-color=&#038;rtl=0&#038;logo_link=&#038;btn-skin=7&#038;size=150\" loading=\"lazy\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/tinyurl.com\/mr6h798h\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">CLICK HERE FOR THE FULL SHOW ON ITUNES<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Ep4eLp\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">CLICK HERE FOR YOUTUBE<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Are you with a Narcissist?\u00a0 The term \u201cnarcissism\u201d has been used a lot lately, but there are some truths and myths about what it really means.\u00a0 A narcissist can be defined as someone who has excessive interest and admiration of themselves, needing constant admiration, and often puts other people down to feel better (lacking empathy). In relationships they can make you suffer.\u00a0 Our guest on Love University Podcast, Darlene Lancer (<a href=\"https:\/\/darlenelancer.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/darlenelancer.com\/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1694520492505000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3tgiydoQpahcRHGiblG1r0\">Santa Monica Counseling, Psychotherapist in Santa Monica, CA &#8211; Darlene Lancer, MFT<\/a>), therapist and author (<i>Codependency for Dummies<\/i>), shed light on the narcissistic personality and how to protect yourself from them.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">*Narcissists can be exciting in the beginning.\u00a0 Because they need to win you over to feel good about themselves, they can love bomb you (give you over the top affection, fun, and romance). Once they win you over, then they start to devalue you\u2014you\u2019re never good enough for them.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">*Narcissists are wounded early in life. One of the biggest causes of the narcissistic personality is a childhood emotional wound\u2014primarily large amounts of shame.\u00a0 When parents say, \u201cYou\u2019re bad,\u201d or \u201cYou shouldn\u2019t feel that way\u201d to children, they often start to feel inferior.\u00a0 To compensate, they may \u201cinflate\u201d their ego to appear better, stronger, and smarter, while at the same time putting others down to feel better.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">*There is such a thing as healthy narcissism. A healthy narcissist is someone who takes care of themselves, and demonstrates confidence, leadership, and goal setting. They believe in themselves and their abilities, and they are able to get things done.\u00a0 The key is having just the right amount of narcissism (self-love) while also being compassionate and empathetic to the needs of others.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">*You can escape from a destructive narcissist.\u00a0 Because they don\u2019t really value you, narcissists can be destructive to your self-esteem.\u00a0 To get away from them\u2014relationship or marriage\u2014you can try several approaches. One is to \u201cgray rock\u201d them\u2014you become unresponsive or dull so they leave you. Also, avoid getting into an emotional back and forth argument with them\u2014communicate your needs in a straightforward way, while establishing boundaries (\u201cI won\u2019t accept that\u201d). Finally, cultivate self-love\u2014eat healthy, exercise, engage in your preferred hobbies and activities, spend time with support friends, and cultivate a spiritual or meditative practice.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">The key to a happy and healthy life is balance. If you have co-dependent tendencies\u2014rely excessively on your partner emotionally and always put them first\u2014you will suffer from lack of self-worth.\u00a0 If you have too much narcissism (excessive self-absorption), then you will alienate others and never be completely happy. The solution is to follow the middle path: maintain humbleness and compassion, while also having confidence, self-belief, and self-love. If you do this, you will achieve your potential and develop healthy and balanced relationships.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/tinyurl.com\/mr6h798h\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Click here for more on Are You Sleeping With a Narcissist? Danger Signs and Escape Strategies, with special guest Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, Expert on the Narcissist Mind.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>CLICK HERE FOR THE FULL SHOW ON ITUNES CLICK HERE FOR YOUTUBE Are you with a Narcissist?\u00a0 The term \u201cnarcissism\u201d has been used a lot lately, but there are some.. <span class=\"read_more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/are-you-sleeping-with-a-narcissist-danger-signs-and-escape-strategies-with-special-guest-darlene-lancer-jd-lmft-expert-on-the-narcissist-mind\/\">Read more<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2946,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[21,9],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2945"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2945"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2945\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2947,"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2945\/revisions\/2947"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2946"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2945"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2945"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/loveuniversity.love\/testsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2945"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}